Rihanna says,
"Come here, rude boy, boy; can you get it up?
Come here rude boy, boy; is you big enough?
Take it, take it baby, baby
Take it, take it; love me, love me
Tonight I'ma let you be the captain
Tonight I'ma let you do your thing, yeah
Tonight I'ma let you be a rider
Giddy-up, giddy-up, giddy-up babe
Tonight I'ma let it be fire
Tonight I'ma let you take me higher
Tonight, baby, we could get it on, yeah, we could get it on, yea"
Jay Sean says,
"So baby don’t worry, you are my only,
You won’t be lonely, even if the sky is falling down,
You’ll be my only, no need to worry,
Baby are you down down down down down,
Down, Down,
Baby are you down down down down down,
Down, Down,
Even if the sky is falling down"
Lil Wayne adds,
"Even if the sky is falling down like she supposed to be,
She gets down low for me..."
These two songs played on the radio station I was listening to within 10 minutes of each other. I thought it was pretty interesting that boys go up and girls go down. While Jay Sean's song is a bit more romantic than Rihanna's "Rude Boy" it seems to me that in both of these songs the singers are expecting the men to take control in sexual situtations. I recently heard the "bottom" (or partner being penetrated) in a homosexual male relationship refered to as the "submissive". This was upsetting for me because it suggested that women are then innately submissive since all they can do in sex (traditionally) is be penetrated. So does this mean that by nature women are passive and the weaker sex? Are women who are assertive in bed really just aggressively passive? I would consider this greater societal problem. One would hope that sex is a team sport that brings two people closer together, not just one dominating the other (unless you're into that, in which case both people involved should have good communication, know what the interaction means, and set safe boundaries). The assumption that one gender is supposed to dominate (sexually or otherwise) is the problem. It starts at home, more specifically the bedroom.